I've been reading with Sam H in the Helping Hands Centre in Belfast for almost a year. Like the other people in our small group, Sam meets with me weekly as part of a Lloyds TSB funded shared reading project. We read stories, poetry, books - literature that is deep enough to make us think. We've read Shakespeare, MacNeice, Smith (Stevie and Zadie), Dickens and Edward Thomas, to name a few. I read everything aloud stopping often to chat about what we're reading and to share the varied meanings it - and the chatting - generates.

When we talk, we discuss what the texts might mean; for us they are not existential, decontextualised black and white marks, but rather, they are reflections, invocations, reconstitutions, even, of lives that often intersect with our own. So we appreciate these stories, not just for their literary and linguistic qualities, but more importantly, for what they mean for (and to) us, and what we feel when we read and explore their meaning potential. We learn, too. Always something about, and from each other, and crucially, about ourselves. It's an incredibly powerful experience.

Currently, we are reading Mark Haddon's The Curious Incident of the Dog In The Night Time. The story is Christopher Boone's, a teenager with Asperger's syndrome, who takes things literally and for whom metaphors are a kind of lie. He doesn't like his food to touch and won't eat brown things. Physical contact is rebuked and sometimes violently reacted to. Consequently, his world is, as my group put it, 'locked'; his perception of concepts, things and emotions is for the most part inaccessible to others; his dad and his teacher, Siobhan, come closest to understanding him.

Yet, this story is not just Christopher Boone's. It is the story of Sam H, locked in reality in a prison cell, most of his 26-year sentence spent in solitary confinement, 53 days on hunger strike, rendered 'emotionally empty' by bullish prison officers, hitting back by not communicating and becoming, instead, an elective mute. This story, is Sam's story.

Like the others in our group who are trying to find their way back to something that is both a semblance of, and better than their past lives, this story cuts across their own. At times, and perhaps more directly, it is the story of Sam's brother - understandable to few (mainly Sam) and understood to even less - for Sam, it tells of his brother's (and his own) frustration at the barriers to communication.

We have reached the part of the story where Christopher learns that his mother, whom he believes to be dead, is actually alive and living with an ex-neighbour in London. This prompts a surge of negative opinion that centres on the mother’s motivation for leaving and the father’s motivation for keeping it from Christopher. Up to this point, the group are - at best - derisory about the mother, particularly Sam H.  Poignantly, Tom, a young guy of about seventeen, offers a kind of rationale for the mother’s departure; 'maybe she couldn't cope with him and that could be why she had the affair and left'. We talk all of this out and acknowledge a difference of opinion in the group about the mother. Sam H believes her to be 'selfish', Sam M considers what may have 'drove her away', and at one point, a view is espoused that 'the da may have hit her' as it is recalled that he struck Christopher earlier in the story. A few 'Mmmms' follow this and Sam H emphatically intones 'He did that, yes, but he was trying to protect him [from discovering his mothers death was faked]', he said. 'You would do anything out of love'. We sense without it being said that Sam H is thinking about his own 'anything' - the years he spent in prison for the crime that he maintains was carried out 'to protect my son'.

But then we read the letters Christopher finds in his dad's wardrobe. They are letters addressed to Christopher and they are from his mother (he knows this before he opens them because of the childish circle over the ‘i’). His 'dead' mother. With almost childish honesty (both in form and substance), they relate, in part, her struggle with motherhood. As we read along with Christopher, something, almost imperceptibly, happens when we get to this:

“And then you and me had that argumant. Do you remember? It was about your supper one evening. I’d cooked you something and you wouldn’t eat it. And you hadn’t eaten for days and you were looking so thin. And you started to shout and I got cross and I threw the food across the room. Which I know I shouldn’t have done. And you grabbed the chopping board and you threw it and it hit my foot and broke my toes [...] And afterwards, at home, your father and I had a huge argumant. He blamed me for getting cross with you. And he said I should just give you what you wanted, even if it was just a plate of lettuce or a strawberry milkshake. And I said I was just trying to get you to eat something healthy. And he said you couldn’t help it. And I said well I couldn’t help it either and I just lost my rag [...]

          And I couldn’t walk properly for a month, do you remember, and your father had to look after you. And I remember looking at the two of you and seeing you together and thinking how you were really differant with him. Much calmer. And you didn’t shout at one another. And it made me so sad because it was like you didn’t really need me at all. And somehow that was even worse than you and me arguing all the time because it was like I was invisible.

          And I think that was when I realised you and your father were probably better off if I wasn’t living in the house. Then he would only have one person to look after instead of two.”

Sam M shifts uncomfortably in his seat. He says nothing. Syd barely voices a 'wow', but we catch it. It is Sam H who breaks the silence - at first, with a few words I can’t understand. He is trying to say something and for the first time in a year, I see that the text is openly affecting him. ‘See that’, he says, ‘that’s...’ and his voice trails off. Sam M gets up and goes to the other end of the room and turns his phone over in his hand a few times before coming back to his seat. Syd remains where he is, going over and over the lines. Suddenly everyone speaks at once and I can make nothing out. Then Sam H. confidently proclaims, 'I was wrong about her. I judged her. All this time...I thought she was a s***, but she's not. She's the opposite. Look at this...' He draws our attention to the letter and reads aloud (I look up, almost expecting to see him standing, but he is not):

“We [Christopher’s mother and father] had a lot of argumants like that. Because I often thought I couldn’t take any more. And your father is really pacient but I’m not, I get cross, even though I don’t mean too. And by the end we stopped talking to each other very much because we knew it would always end up in an argumant and it would go nowere. And I felt realy lonley”

‘It must have been really difficult for her’, Sam H says. ‘And the da doesn’t seem to be giving her much support. You can’t do that on your own. And if he gets on a bit better with the da, then she must have felt that’. At this point, Sam M interrupts, ‘she felt a failure - she thinks he did everything right for his son but never really supported her - that’s gonna make her feel crap’. Although Sam H is nodding in agreement, I can see that he is thinking about something else. I ask him.  He takes his glasses off, puts his book face down on the table and says in a confident, but quiet voice, 'I'll tell you something...THAT...is the first time in 30 years that I have felt emotion.' As I look at him, I can see the beginnings of tears in his eyes. But he was smiling. ‘She sacrificed herself in a way, because she thought it was for the best. Look - (he points to the lines) “And it made me so sad because it was like you didn’t really need me at all.” Now that’s putting your kids first.’

We talked a bit more about this before Fleur Adcock’s ‘For A Five Year Old’, brought the session to a poignant, thoughtful close:

A snail is climbing up the window-sill

Into your room, after a night of rain.

You call me in to see, and I explain

That it would be unkind to leave it there:

It might crawl to the floor; we must take care

That no one squashes it. You understand,

And carry it outside, with a careful hand,

To eat a daffodil.

I see, then, that a kind of faith prevails:

Your gentleness is moulded still by words

From me, who have trapped mice and shot wild birds,

From me, who drowned your kittens, who betrayed

Your closest relatives, and who purveyed

The harshest kind of truth to many another.

But that is how things are: I am your mother,

And we are kind to snails.

As is normally the case in most of my groups, the personal stories become shared issues, brought to life through identification with the fictional characters, events, places, a word, even. I didn't know about Sam's brother before reading this book with him. Nor did I know about Sam's experiences in a Belfast prison. I had no idea of his claim to be emotionally empty before we read together. Yet all of these deeply personal and troubling issues found a means of articulation through the book. For Sam, as for most people in our groups, the stories and poetry offered a way of saying; 'it changes the way you think about things'. When the saying gets too much, too overwhelming, we divert our attention to the catalyst for the shared experience - 'so, about this kid's dad, then', Sam or Tom will say. And so it goes.

The following week, Sam H, self-proclaimed emotional vacuum, chatted excitedly to me as soon as I arrived. ‘Patricia, I have been thinking about that woman all week. How much she did for her son.’ ‘Who?’ I asked. ‘You know, Christopher’s mother!’ came the reply. So… about this ‘no emotion’.